…erhaps a liberal dose of self-hatred, occurs. I was reflecting on the fallacy of saying to someone, “This is what I’ve always done, this is what’s going to happen with you.” Recognition of past toxic behaviours is a step towards change, I think, but not if one says it in such a way that’s tantamount to saying, “This is what I’ve always done and that means I can’t do anything different.” That conclusion is categorically false. Resistance to altering behaviour is by no means a life senten…
J.D. Harms